Learning to counterbalance negativity is really all about mind over matter. Our minds are pretty good at taking all the anxious feelings and stress, then running with them. Before you know what hit you, your head is spinning and everything is spiraling out of control.
The good thing is you have a simple way to stop this vicious and counterproductive mindset in its tracks.
“I would rather be annoyingly optimistic and positive than destructively negative and hateful.” That is a quote to live by. I don’t know who came up with it, but it’s good food for thought. Make it one of your daily goals to focus on positivity. Look at the bright side of everything. Once you start focusing on what’s good, you’ll feel the negativity fade away.
How I Counterbalance Negativity
Take a Siesta From Social Media and the News
We all know that social media is both good and bad. It’s good for connecting, sharing and communicating with others and bad because it’s the perfect medium for people to spew negativity. You don’t even want to get me started on the news! Often, we just need a refreshing timeout from all that noise. Unplug and unwind. Make a firm effort to dedicate yourself to a set amount of time away from these distractions and give your emotions a little rest break.
Be Mindful and Compassionate
Compassion can soothe a savage soul. I can’t count how many times I have dealt with an angry person and instead of reciprocating, I responded with a caring and understanding tone. I gave them time to speak and vent their frustrations and then I offered empathy and solutions. Majority of the time this changed their entire frame of mind and they calmed down. We’re all human and need to feel cared for and heard. Taking time to unwrap ourselves from our own baggage and be in tune with what’s going on around us helps us to better help others and in return, we get a positive outcome from those around us.
Focus on Your Values
What do you hold dear in life and value? Make a daily habit of incorporating these things into each day. If you like to read, take a little time to read a few chapters in a good book. Each positive activity that you blend into your daily routine will help you counterbalance negativity.
Write Down 5 Positive Affirmations Each Day
Negative self-talk will undermine the most positive intentions, do away with all of that chatter and focus on some positive affirmations. Exercise does for the body what positive and uplifting words does for the mind. They have been shown to improve mental health and a general state of mind. To get the most out of your affirmations, think about what you would like help with in your life. Do you want to boost your self-esteem? What about feeling more confident? Are you struggling with anxiety? Write your affirmations in the present tense. Think about them as already happening.
Some that I like to focus on daily include:
- I believe in myself
- I can do this
- No one can do this better than me
- My failures are nothing but stepping-stones
- This day is going to be awesome
- I can do anything I set my mind to
- My mind is calm and I am relaxed
- I’m Fierce
- My goals are within arms reach
Meditate Each Morning
One of the easiest ways to start your day off on the right foot is to meditate. Just breathe and take a few moments to be mindful and in the present. You don’t always have to practice meditation by sitting still and going through the normal process. Take a walk during your meditation. Whatever works for you is best. Relax and focus. This helps get your mind in gear for a productive and positive day ahead.